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Post by ihrian on Apr 21, 2007 8:29:18 GMT -5
ok then, do i keep secrets from my parents? hell yes!! me and my mum keep secrets from my dad...'how much were all those new clothes?' 'oh, they were only about $20, there was a sale on, 3 items for $10'..oh, theres no way they werent really $10 each or - Dad 'whered you get that cd from?' me - 'what cd? oh this one? ive had it for forever!' mum actually bought it for me the other day and the favourite 'what are you doing on the computer erin?' *clickly closing all non school related windows* 'assignment, mum.' im such a little goody arent i? i have no real things to keep secrets about tho, and what would the consequences be anyway? a stern word, thats not going to hurt me, and while i take advice, i'll make my own decisions now
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Post by Senbecc on Apr 21, 2007 17:37:49 GMT -5
ok then, do i keep secrets from my parents? hell yes!! me and my mum keep secrets from my dad...'how much were all those new clothes?' 'oh, they were only about $20, there was a sale on, 3 items for $10'..oh, theres no way they werent really $10 each or - Dad 'whered you get that cd from?' me - 'what cd? oh this one? ive had it for forever!' mum actually bought it for me the other day and the favourite 'what are you doing on the computer erin?' *clickly closing all non school related windows* 'assignment, mum.' im such a little goody arent i? i have no real things to keep secrets about tho, and what would the consequences be anyway? a stern word, thats not going to hurt me, and while i take advice, i'll make my own decisions now Soooooo, THIS is how women learn to be sneaky? It's a skill passed from mother to daughter, thousands of years of fooling men passed from one generation to the next.
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Post by ihrian on Apr 21, 2007 21:52:58 GMT -5
shit, and we've just been caught, lol! how dare you put voice to so sacred a practise! haha, we are trained, from a young age, how to keep certain things quiet from our fathers
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Post by KittyLane on Apr 23, 2007 17:16:58 GMT -5
ok then, do i keep secrets from my parents? hell yes!! me and my mum keep secrets from my dad...'how much were all those new clothes?' 'oh, they were only about $20, there was a sale on, 3 items for $10'..oh, theres no way they werent really $10 each or - Dad 'whered you get that cd from?' me - 'what cd? oh this one? ive had it for forever!' mum actually bought it for me the other day and the favourite 'what are you doing on the computer erin?' *clickly closing all non school related windows* 'assignment, mum.' im such a little goody arent i? i have no real things to keep secrets about tho, and what would the consequences be anyway? a stern word, thats not going to hurt me, and while i take advice, i'll make my own decisions now Soooooo, THIS is how women learn to be sneaky? It's a skill passed from mother to daughter, thousands of years of fooling men passed from one generation to the next. hey we cannot help it that we are way smarter than men.
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Post by Wolf on Apr 24, 2007 9:42:41 GMT -5
So true kitty... So true..
I don't often keep things from my mum.. But I'm keeping the biggest secret of all from her until I'm after 4 months pregnant and I figure out how to tell her... Lol
I think the only thing I haven't told mum all about is my sex life.. And the above thing.. She's so gonna go nutters..
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Post by Lady Anastasia on Apr 25, 2007 20:08:23 GMT -5
I still think this is a good discussion to have going on, so...I shall bump it I think that it is an interesting discussion... Though, I do not condone teens lying to their parents.. as a responsible adult and a parent, I would advise all to be as truthful as possible with your parents... Half truths, lies, etc. will happen, they are part of probly every teens life... But... I think the questions we should be asking is what are you lying about, why do you feel the need to lie about it, and, if at all possible, guide people into an area where there would be less reason to lie about things, or offer suggestions on how to bring up subject matter with their parents..
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Post by Wolf on Apr 25, 2007 20:49:57 GMT -5
I don't lie often to my mum. I actually tried to talk about my sex life with her once till she said she didn't want to know lol she tells me hers so I don't see why I can't tell her mine!! Lol and I'm not lying to mum really I'm just not telling her til I'm ready to. Plus I'm scared she might pressure me into giving my baby up and I will refuse and I'll lose her... I'm not ready for that yet.. Hmm.. Argh my puppy just decided to give me kisses!! Yucky.. Maybe that's because he wants my pie..
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Post by KittyLane on Apr 26, 2007 22:29:41 GMT -5
I don't think there is a teen alive that does not keep some sort of secrets from their parents. It is essence what being a teenager is. As a teenager on the verge of adulthood, you have little power. Having secrets, however small or large, tips the scales. Is it wrong? Is it right? I think all of those answers are really best answered per personal experience. You do not know how people are living in their own lives, secrets might be the only way to survive. Then again, you could just be a trouble maker! LOL
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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 27, 2007 19:16:33 GMT -5
god how many did i keep from my mom and dad.......ALOT......its true kitty...every one keeps something from their mom and dad.
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Post by Senbecc on Apr 27, 2007 23:58:09 GMT -5
I still think this is a good discussion to have going on, so...I shall bump it I think that it is an interesting discussion... Though, I do not condone teens lying to their parents.. as a responsible adult and a parent, I would advise all to be as truthful as possible with your parents... Half truths, lies, etc. will happen, they are part of probly every teens life... But... I think the questions we should be asking is what are you lying about, why do you feel the need to lie about it, and, if at all possible, guide people into an area where there would be less reason to lie about things, or offer suggestions on how to bring up subject matter with their parents.. Looking at this post as well as those that follow it, I am lead to think what secrets etc. that are being kept depend greatly on the Parent(s) deal with situations. The harsher they are from the get-go the more secrets and 1/2 truths seem to be kept. Also I think a bit has to do with a fear of letting your parents down. Wolf for example seems to have a fear of loosing her mother, I seriously doubt that is going to happen, but serves as a pretty good example (albeit an extreme one) of why secrets are kept from parents.
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Post by KittyLane on May 1, 2007 17:46:52 GMT -5
Yes every situation is different.
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Post by Lady Anastasia on May 1, 2007 19:16:54 GMT -5
I'm not saying that all situations are the same, however, I do see the potential liability if the sites adminitstrators and moderators do not make it clear that they feel that the younger people on these boards shouldn't try to be honest with their parents....
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Post by KittyLane on May 2, 2007 22:26:43 GMT -5
Not promoting dishonesty. Understanding certain reasons for things like that, yes. Being available for advice here or privately, most definitely. Coming from a troubled past myself, I know that it is sometimes impossible to talk to parents. There are reasonable parents out there who can sit down, understand and listen to their teens.
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Post by fallen on Jun 11, 2007 1:28:08 GMT -5
Of course! what they dont know wont hurt them.
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Post by Wolf on Jun 12, 2007 0:43:12 GMT -5
Um, sometimes it can... Some things can affect your parents lives. Like if you kept it a secret that you were goin out driving with mates and one day everything goes wrong and you die or get hurt.. They wouldn't know where you were to help you. Just things like that you know?
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