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Post by wiccafairey on Mar 6, 2007 9:16:35 GMT -5
i have a friend which is my oldest friens. we have been friends for 20+ years . but the thing is when she is mad  (over somethink small or dum) she throws everything that has happened at me ..like you did this in 8th grade...the summer of 88 you did this...ect .. i posted a blog on my myspace.(which is the need avice post here) she flipped and left a 5 min comment on how i need help..I cant have a old pic. of me on my myspace.. i need to let go of the past...to which she then went back to the 7th grade to our first fight  and on and on....... AND I NEED TO LET GO?! I am always saying sorry to her even when its NOT my fault. in fact i took the blog down and thinking of changing the pic. I worte to her. I said i wrote to her(few months ago) and said sorry for not always being there for her. she never wrote back. NOW- do I leave it like that or is it time to give up on this friendship. |
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Post by Senbecc on Mar 6, 2007 15:08:28 GMT -5
i have a friend which is my oldest friens. we have been friends for 20+ years . but the thing is when she is mad (over somethink small or dum) she throws everything that has happened at me ..like you did this in 8th grade...the summer of 88 you did this...ect .. i posted a blog on my myspace.(which is the need avice post here) she flipped and left a 5 min comment on how i need help..I cant have a old pic. of me on my myspace.. i need to let go of the past...to which she then went back to the 7th grade to our first fight and on and on....... AND I NEED TO LET GO?! I am always saying sorry to her even when its NOT my fault. in fact i took the blog down and thinking of changing the pic. I worte to her. I said i wrote to her(few months ago) and said sorry for not always being there for her. she never wrote back. NOW- do I leave it like that or is it time to give up on this friendship. Women are just evil...  An interesting dilemma you have. I used to have a friend like that when I was in high school. We had known each other all through Kindergarten up. Kid was psycho though, I had to kick the tar out of him every other day, cause he'd pick it with me, and would just never learn I was invincible  Seriously though, you can't have a good friendship with someone if she's going to be like that IMO. You just can't say you forgive something then drudge it up every time something ain't right. If you can't forgive it then so be it, but you just cause more needless pain by saying you can, and then just wait for the right time to throw it back out there... You've put the ball in her court it sounds like, she can either swat it back to yours or be done with it. From what you say it sounds like it would be for the best. However I suppose you should follow your instincts on it and go from there. |
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Post by tanath on Mar 6, 2007 20:07:36 GMT -5
the only advice i have to is to slowly cut her off. it's not right for you ot have to deal with her baggage. she either needs to deal or go away. you already gave her that option, it sounds like. it's up to her now.
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Post by KittyLane on Mar 6, 2007 21:51:38 GMT -5
i have a friend which is my oldest friens. we have been friends for 20+ years . but the thing is when she is mad (over somethink small or dum) she throws everything that has happened at me ..like you did this in 8th grade...the summer of 88 you did this...ect .. i posted a blog on my myspace.(which is the need avice post here) she flipped and left a 5 min comment on how i need help..I cant have a old pic. of me on my myspace.. i need to let go of the past...to which she then went back to the 7th grade to our first fight and on and on....... AND I NEED TO LET GO?! I am always saying sorry to her even when its NOT my fault. in fact i took the blog down and thinking of changing the pic. I worte to her. I said i wrote to her(few months ago) and said sorry for not always being there for her. she never wrote back. NOW- do I leave it like that or is it time to give up on this friendship. well i have to say congratulations on maintaining a friendship for this long. it amazes me. i barely maintain friends from HS. (i moved around a lot, and was aloof  ) it would seem to me there is something unresolved. something that she is holding on to, and trying to make you feel bad over it. instead of coming out with the truth. you have made attempts to rectofy the gap in the friendship. i would suggest giving it one more earnest attempt, and if that falls through give the friendship a break. don't count her out forever, she might just have some personal things she needs to deal with alone. anytime you need to talk pm me ok? |
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Post by tahlia on Mar 7, 2007 1:28:13 GMT -5
I've found that not everything is meant to last forever. Sometimes relationships must end and sometimes friendships too. It may hurt like hell but sometimes it's for the best. When people simply aren't good for you, you need to cut them loose. I'm not saying give up every time things are rough or not fun but it sounds like all she is doing is bringing you down. Thats not good for you. A real friend wouldn't do that too you. It sounds like you need to distance yourself from this friend until such a time that she can care about you and your feelings the way you do hers. But thats just my opinion based on what you wrote here and I know this can't possibly cover 20 years of friendship. Only you can know whats right for you. Good luck.
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Post by wiccafairey on Mar 8, 2007 10:03:03 GMT -5
OMG R U SERIOUS !!!!!YOU WERE ALWAYS GOING TO THE DOCTOR FOR SOMETHING OFF THE WALL AND THERE WAS NEVER ANYTHING WRONG WITH YOU...THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL YOU HAVE FIBROMYALGIA.IF ALL THOSE THINGS YOU SAID AS FAR AS SYMPTOMS GO IN YOUR POST ARE TRUE THEN CALL ME CRAZY AND SLAP A STRAIGHT JACKET ON ME CUZ I HAVE THOSE SYMPTOMS TOO.....ITS A FLIPPIN BRUISE IDIOT DEHEDEHHHHH DUH
THIS is what i got from her on my myspace blog.......she also said I never said sorry to her at all.
found out she is fighting with b/f..but im getting the crapp thrown at me.
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Post by Senbecc on Mar 8, 2007 13:56:36 GMT -5
OMG R U SERIOUS !!!!!YOU WERE ALWAYS GOING TO THE DOCTOR FOR SOMETHING OFF THE WALL AND THERE WAS NEVER ANYTHING WRONG WITH YOU...THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL YOU HAVE FIBROMYALGIA.IF ALL THOSE THINGS YOU SAID AS FAR AS SYMPTOMS GO IN YOUR POST ARE TRUE THEN CALL ME CRAZY AND SLAP A STRAIGHT JACKET ON ME CUZ I HAVE THOSE SYMPTOMS TOO.....ITS A FLIPPIN BRUISE IDIOT DEHEDEHHHHH DUH  Uhhhhh, yeeeaah....I'd say its time for that straight jacket alright...Friends like that who needs enemies?  |
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Post by wiccafairey on Mar 8, 2007 16:17:56 GMT -5
OH THANK YOU....NEEDED THAT LAUGH. I was starting to doubt myself.
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Post by Senbecc on Mar 8, 2007 17:46:47 GMT -5
OH THANK YOU....NEEDED THAT LAUGH. I was starting to doubt myself. Well I don't know what you had said prior to this, but I have a hard time imagining that it deserved this kind of a responce.  |
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Post by wiccafairey on Mar 8, 2007 18:34:38 GMT -5
she does not believe I have Firbrmyalgia-that is the responce i got
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Post by KittyLane on Mar 8, 2007 22:21:08 GMT -5
she does not believe I have Firbrmyalgia-that is the responce i got so many people and doctors discount this. it infuriating. my bestfriends mother suffers from it. i hope you are coping ok! |
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Post by wiccafairey on Mar 9, 2007 6:46:52 GMT -5
so far so good
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Post by KittyLane on Mar 9, 2007 8:47:41 GMT -5
thats great to hear!  |
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Post by tanath on Mar 13, 2007 12:44:41 GMT -5
she does not believe I have Firbrmyalgia-that is the responce i got do you mind if i ask what that is? i don't think i've ever heard of it. |
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Post by wiccafairey on Mar 14, 2007 7:44:24 GMT -5
Fibromyalgia is a chronic condition characterized by widespread pain in your muscles, ligaments and tendons, as well as fatigue and multiple tender points — places on your body where slight pressure causes pain. Fibromyalgia is more common in women than in men. Previously, fibromyalgia was known by other names such as fibrositis, chronic muscle pain syndrome, psychogenic rheumatism and tension myalgias.
Although the intensity of your symptoms may vary, they'll probably never disappear completely. It may be reassuring to know, however, that fibromyalgia isn't progressive or life-threatening. Treatments and self-care steps can improve fibromyalgia symptoms and your general health.
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