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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 1, 2007 19:46:13 GMT -5
ok i need some help here......I have been talking on the phone with my ex. he wants to be friends..we stay on for hrs and i must say it is good to hear his voice. it like we never missed a beat. we talk about the old days and still make fun of one another.. what a good way to be friends again. his happly married w/kids and i have 2 myself along with a b/f of 8 years. now the ex will ask things like are you happy even asked if my b/f has ever hit me..which he has NOT......he told me he has kept things from went we were together and that there is a song that will make him think me. is this just him making sure i am ok or something else?
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Post by Senbecc on Apr 1, 2007 19:51:32 GMT -5
ok i need some help here......I have been talking on the phone with my ex. he wants to be friends..we stay on for hrs and i must say it is good to hear his voice. it like we never missed a beat. we talk about the old days and still make fun of one another.. what a good way to be friends again. his happly married w/kids and i have 2 myself along with a b/f of 8 years. now the ex will ask things like are you happy even asked if my b/f has ever hit me..which he has NOT......he told me he has kept things from went we were together and that there is a song that will make him think me. is this just him making sure i am ok or something else? Sounds to me from what you say it's probably safe to take him at his word. I think of my ex's allot...Its nice sometimes to just stop and remember old times, as long as you don't live in them lol. I'm sure will probably always have a soft spot for you if you left on good terms etc. I know I do for most of mine. |
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Post by Der Trommler on Apr 1, 2007 19:54:36 GMT -5
He definitely has regret. Whether he has feelings that he should be with you, is another story. I don't know which way it is. Sounds like he is trying to get back with you in some fashion.....I certainly wouldn't ask those questions.
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Post by tanath on Apr 1, 2007 20:02:29 GMT -5
have you asked him? that's the only way you'll know for sure.
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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 1, 2007 20:08:18 GMT -5
we broke up VERY BADLY>. which he has said sorry to....i know what family means to him..his dad walked out on them whhe was small.. he always said he would never do that. i ajust wondering f he still has feelings for me...his wife told me for the fi 5 years he compared hme and still talks abou me.(see post small world.
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Post by tanath on Apr 1, 2007 20:18:28 GMT -5
i still think you should take the direct approach and just ask him.
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Post by KittyLane on Apr 2, 2007 21:23:02 GMT -5
I will agree with tanath on this, be direct. Say something like, "hey this has been great getting reacquainted with you. Blah Blah.. and so is there anything else going on here?" State to him your intentions and hopefully he will reciprocate.
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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 4, 2007 10:09:17 GMT -5
my bf wont lte see him or talk to him now.my ex was "my first" so my bf thinks i am o to run off with him...i would like my ex to be a friend wht do i do
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Post by KittyLane on Apr 4, 2007 14:05:50 GMT -5
thats just ridiculous. he should trust you more IMO. good luck with your men-lol
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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 4, 2007 14:13:24 GMT -5
HOLY crapp  ...my ex wife left him monday!!!!! |
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Post by Pel on Apr 4, 2007 15:04:15 GMT -5
Hmm ... I think he probably knew it was coming since they most likely had problems before she left. I doubt it was something completely unexpected and out of the blue. So it sounds to me like he's doing 1 of 3 things:
1. He needs someone to understand him so he has a "shoulder to cry on."
2. He's trying to figure out what went wrong so he can better himself in some fashion. (Calling the exes, finding out past mistakes. At least he's hoping to feel better about himself, wanting the exes to say it wasn't his fault.)
3. He wants to rekindle an old flame.
I may be way off; he might be different than the majority of the world, but I also agree that the direct approach is best. Ask him what he's wanting.
-Pel
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Post by KittyLane on Apr 4, 2007 16:28:41 GMT -5
HOLY crapp ...my ex wife left him monday!!!!! now that is a wee bit suspicious... i agree with pel's list of 3. |
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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 4, 2007 18:37:38 GMT -5
i am not sure. he was telling me about how he wanted to renew their vows next year since they didnt get to do everything the first time. got married in a week because she was preg.
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Post by tanath on Apr 4, 2007 22:27:40 GMT -5
relationships that happen that fast rarely last. he probably knew it was coming, just didn't want to admit it.
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Post by wiccafairey on Apr 5, 2007 4:27:03 GMT -5
true but they were together for 13 years
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